The Moment of Relief   

Truly remarkable turn of events started from this morning. My uncle came at 6 o’clock from Bihar to help me go through this ordeal. At 12 o’clock the report came that the platelets count is increased from 87k to 1 lakh 38k, the doctor discharged my mother from the hospital and we came home around 2 o’clock in the afternoon. 

We were in a video chat with our family members back home for about more than half hour in the evening, everyone came and chatted and saw my mother talk a bit, I could see them getting relief and it was amazing. There were a lot of crying involved in the beginning of the call but they became happy afterward. Thanks to Facebook and its video calling feature. It seems that it’s the first time we have used the technology so effectively.

This last week felt like a month though, and I have certainly emerged stronger from this situation. For last two nights I was sleeping with my spectacles on and today after waking up I found out that I have broken my specs in my sleep. I am back with my old specs. On a normal day it would have broken my heart (since it was newly purchased one) but today I just didn’t care. I guess this is what it means to emerge stronger from a difficult situation. You just do not care for small things anymore.

I am very grateful to Allah for helping me go through the situation.

Thank you all of you for all the support. Thank you so much.

Book Review: Solving the Procrastination Puzzle

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Finally, I completed the book, “Solving the Procrastination Puzzle”. Well, I procrastinated too much while reading the book and because of that, it took me more than 3 weeks to read the book. The good thing is that every now and then I wrote my learnings from the book on my blog which turned out to be a great asset because now I can revisit it anytime I want and relearn from it. To read all the posts related to this book click here.

The book became really technical in the later half which actually led the delay. If the book is interesting it takes no time to read till the end but when it becomes too technical to understand it becomes difficult to follow through. With that said, I really liked the last chapter because it dealt with my problem specifically and showed the how I can overcome it (I would share the detail of my problem and its solution in the next post).

The bottom line is when we give in to feel good, we procrastinate. That’s it. It happens in almost any endeavor of life. When the going gets tough we find an easy way out and that’s what giving in to feel good mean and it leads to procrastination. For most of us, this has become a habit, we are habitual to procrastinate. Realizing this would be the first half of solving the procrastination puzzle and acting upon it to create a new habit of doing things rather than giving in to feel good is the solution that I have found for myself.

PS: My mother is doing fine, she is still in bed but fever and headache are down thankfully. Thank you for all your support.

Helplessness

What is one of the worst feelings in the world ??

Helplessness.

I almost skipped today’s post because of my mother’s illness, she was in high fever this evening and was shivering in pain. I was there but couldn’t do anything. Indeed illness is one of those things which no one can share it with anyone.

I gave all the medicines I could but it appeared as if nothing was working. Thanks to Dr. Afif for helping me in the difficult situation and suggesting me the medicines. I was getting all the help but at the same time was feeling so helpless. I just wanted to ease my mother’s pain. The headache is still there but thankfully the fever is down. I hope she would feel much better tomorrow.

Please pray for her.

Metacognition: Thinking About Thinking

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Long time back I suggested one of my friend and colleague at TCS to read Linchpin by Seth Godin. It was one of the first few books that led me to read other books. I loved it and recommended it everyone in my circle of influence. My good friend Prabhu read the book and said that it was very informative and he started reading Seth Godin’s other books after that. Indeed it was one of the best books I have ever read.

In addition to many good things about the book he also said that the book was redundant meaning same concepts were emphasized more than one time to which I was in agreement but didn’t knew why Seth did that.

A couple of days ago I came across the concept of “metacognition” meaning thinking about thinking. Through repetition and redundancy we are able to train our mind to think that whatever we are studying is important and that must be the reason why Seth Godin has said one thing so many times so that the reader must think that this must be important enough to be repeated so it’s must be important enough to pay attention so I must pay attention.

I know it’s difficult to explain about thinking about thinking, let me know if you got it. I’ll try to do better next time.

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An Unproductive Day

It’s okay if you have an unproductive day where all you do is the errands. It could be very frustrating if you keep thinking about it as a waste so it’s better to think of it as a break, an unplanned break and it will relax you.

But at the same time keep track of it because it’s good to have a break over a week but doing it more often wouldn’t be beneficial. Planning is good but it’s okay to let the plan slip for one day.

A good thing about an unproductive day is that you can always start over fresh next day onwards.

Why I Write (And You Should Too)

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Writing things down have made a profound impact on me. It’s incredible how useful they can be at the time when we are confused and don’t know what we should do next. I always undermine it yet every time when I use this tool it I feel like I should have used it more often.

If a story is in you, it has got to come out
William Faulkner

Even writing down the smallest possible steps you can take, has the power to move you from stagnancy to mobility. I love to write, not only for my blog but also for the things I have to do during the day time. I write when I feel down, I write when I feel motivated, I write when I feel guilty of not doing the things I should have done, I write when I plan things, basically I write whenever I get time to write. Writing lessen the burden if I have any, and if I feel motivated, writing makes me feel even more motivated.

If you think you are not good enough to write, you are wrong. You may not have enough expertise to write in public that I can understand but of course you can write for yourself. Doing that more often will gradually make you a good writer and it will improve your writing skills in the long run. For those who always have an excuse for not writing, and those who plan to write and those who love to procrastinate, there is only one message… You just have to start.!!

The Stupidity

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All my cousins are on my Facebook and they have just started to use the platform, thanks to the technological progress that we have made so far. They remind me of my first few months on Facebook.

I was a freshman in college when I first started using it. Facebook was the new thing at that time at least in India. I signed up but couldn’t understand a thing, I hated the tabs, the newsfeed and the way things were displayed at that time(I was accustomed to Orkut if you don’t even know what it is then we have an age gap).

Facebook was much cooler than Orkut since all the cool kids were hanging out there and I said to myself I must be missing something so let’s go and understand how it works. I don’t know what happened to my Orkut account after that.

When I see my cousins post stupid posts I remember the time when I used to post with utmost stupidity, perhaps we all are the same after all. These must be the feelings my parents would have had when I used to do stupid things in my childhood(still do sometimes).

Pressing the Publish Button

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There are hundreds of posts in my OneNote which aren’t complete yet. I am still waiting for the day to perfect it and in that process, I have long forgotten about the post. I have several keywords which I have thought that they would make a great post but never have elaborated them into a post.

There is a fine line between publishing the work and saving it to publish later. Pressing the publish button takes courage and also gives a sense of satisfaction, that said I still have a lot of them unpublished posts because of fear and doubt.

The point is that everyone who publishes faces  fear, even the ones who publish everyday. Fear of rejection, fear of what others would think, and the thought that my work is not good enough is still there. Even publishing every day do not eliminate the fear completely. It’s just that if you publish every day you would become good at ignoring the voice within you which creates doubt.

Dangal Trailer Review

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Dangal’s much-awaited trailer is out on YouTube and like every other YouTube video spirals, I went right into it. I like movies from Aamir khan but I am not a die hard fan. I think he makes movies not just to make money, well that’s one of the purposes but he also tries to share a great message and tries to make an impact on the society by his films and I respect him for doing that.

All along, I was desperate for a son so he could win a gold in wrestling for India. But what didn’t occur to me was that gold is gold whether a boy wins it or a girl.
Mahavir Singh Phogat

To tell you the truth, I wasn’t waiting for it, hell I didn’t even know about Dangal until today when YouTube suggested it to me but I loved it. It gave me goosebumps several times throughout the trailer. I can only hope that the movie would be as good as the trailer. The best part of the movie is that it is based on a true story(click here for more details).

Always remember if you win a silver, sooner or later people will forget you. But if you win gold, you will become an example. And examples are given not forgotten.
Mahavir Singh Phogat

 

The YouTube Spirals

I hate the YouTube spirals.

Remember the times when you say to yourself that, this is the last random video I am going to watch on YouTube and you end up watching the whole series of videos after that.

Remember the time when you say to yourself that, this is the last episode of “Friends”(or one of your favorite TV series) I am going to watch and then complete the whole series after that.

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My friends at college were huge fans of the game series “Assassin’s Creed” and they always used to talk about it after the class but I never paid any attention to it(I was not into games back then). Last night I watched every introduction video of “Assassin’s Creed” (I don’t remember how I stumbled upon it, though) released till now and now I know what all fuss was about back then. They were indeed very addictive, but I was exhausted after that and slept without completing the task at hand.

We avoid tasks subconsciously and we manifest these hurdles in order to avoid it and then we crib that we don’t have any time anymore to complete the task. Since we live in the world full of distractions we always find a great one popping in our mobile phones.